Congratulations on your engagement and thanks for looking at my blog!

Congratulations on your engagement and thanks for looking at my blog!

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This blog is structured as a series of questions and under each posting, I've provided what I hope will be helpful advice for you in planning your humanist wedding. All of the posts are on one page, but each one has been condensed in size, so to read the full details, just click on the post title or 'read more'. When you get to the end of the post, just click on 'home' to get back to the full page of posts. If you're interested in a particular subject, you can also click on the list to the left or you can do your own search by using the box below.

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What kind of marriage ceremony can a same sex couple have?

The Marriage and Civil Partnership (Scotland) Act 2014 came into force on Hogmanay 2014 making Scotland the 17th country in the world to legalise same sex marriages. After years of campaigning, the Humanist Society Scotland is very proud and happy to be able to conduct legal weddings for gay and lesbian couples at last! Warmest congratulations to Scotland's first Mr and Mr (Joe and Malx) who were married by HSS Celebrant Ross Wright and to Scotland's first Mrs and Mrs (Gerrie and Susan):

I conducted my first legal same sex marriage recently and the words 'proud and happy' don't go anywhere near to describing how wonderful it was to marry the lovely Elaine and Mary, pictured below at their Broomhall Castle wedding:

(congratulations Mrs and Mrs Robb! Yay! How fabulous is it to be able to say Mrs and Mrs!)

One question I'm often asked is how same sex ceremonies are different from those for straight couples.... 

And the answer is simple: they aren't! In fact the only real difference is that when it comes to the legal declarations, I will of course pronounce you wife and wife or husband and husband! And I can tell you now that it'll be an honour, a privilege and a pleasure to do so!

As a Celebrant, I'm there to help you to celebrate your love for one another and I'm happy to marry you  whether you're two girls, two guys or a girl and a guy! Over the years I've conducted a number of ceremonies to celebrate civil partnerships and I can't tell you how excited I am to be conducting legal marriages for gay couples from this year onward! 

And whether you're straight or gay, I'll be there to:

  • Give you advice or information about Humanist ceremonies before you book, so that you choose the right ceremony for you as a couple
  • Ensure that your booking is completed efficiently
  • Provide you with whatever support you need in the planning stages of your wedding
  • Meet with you to get to know you and to start planning your ceremony in detail
  • Provide you with ideas and examples to help you to choose music, readings, vows and symbolic gestures (if you want to include any)
  • Draft a ceremony for you so that you can make amendments and additions to it
  • Help you through the legal procedures
  • Give you my undivided attention on the big day 
  • Conduct the ceremony with professionalism, empathy, warmth and sincerity
So, to answer the question above, if you're a same sex couple, you can have whatever kind of ceremony you like! You can make it formal or informal, serious or fun, but above all it will be unique to you, reflecting who you are and what you care about in life. I'm there to help you at every stage and if you have any questions, don't hesitate to ask!

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